“Walk the Talk”

To my surprise I came across many personalities who love to crib, complain always and hence obviously remain totally unhappy. But the same people don’t like if someone else cribs in front of them. They constantly keep advising “not to crib / complain, be happy always” etc. I was taken a back after observing these two extremes in the same personality. They are counted under “double dholki” types.

Another example to quote is one of the teachers from my kids’ school always used the word “no” very very frequently during her conversations / communications with students in the class. For ex. If the students asks “may I come in mam?”, the answer is “no”, “Can I show you my copy mam?”, the answer is “no” and for everything there are multiple no’s in her communication. And she used to insist all the students not to use “no”. Again I was taken a back. I was really wondering what’s going on with such people.

Then I understood the crux and only according to me, as this first category of personalities now understood that cribbing, complaining etc. creates bad relationships and imbibes the habit of constantly looking for or try to retrieve only “not so good” points from everyone around. They must have paid huge amounts for their behavior and hence they now promote and request others not to crib and be happy with what you have, based on their experience or sufferings etc. And also, they must be trying to change too, you never know.

Same is the case with the teacher, she is using “no” so frequently and due to her habit, she might have left behind in her life. Hence, she is focusing on upcoming gen to avoid using “no”. She must be practicing the exercise of transforming “active-passive voice”, but its not yet visible to the external world. But simultaneously sharing her suffering is essential. Might be their way they give suggestions and behaviors are contradictory in nature but then I guess all people around them need to accept such personalities and go ahead instead of following the proverb / idiom “penny wise pound foolish” “बोले तैसा चाले त्याची वंदावी पाऊले”,  “walk the talk”. 

Keep learning and observe only good points from everyone, everything around, irrespective of gender, age, profession etc. to build our unique personality.