2081: A Reflection on an Important Truth

In my workspace, within our close-knit circle, we had a habit of calling each other by our initials. It wasn’t for any specific reason—it just became our unique way of interacting, and we enjoyed that little quirk. At the end of each workday, as we walked out of the office and headed home, we’d often cross paths with others, exchanging goodbyes. Some would watch me walk and tease, “PM, why are you walking so slowly?” They meant it with humor and affection, and I’d always respond, “Well, see, it’s thanks to me that you notice your own speed. My slow pace gives you a chance to appreciate your fast one! So, a big thank you to me.” This exchange became a regular part of our day. Due to a major issue with my leg, my pace had slowed to almost a crawl, but that’s all in the past now.

I bring up those memories because they remind me of a broader observation about life in my generation, especially for middle-class families in India—the largest demographic. For many women, a career was a balance between family responsibilities and work. Many of us chose jobs with fixed hours, as our commitments at home took priority. These time-bound roles often came with lower pay, especially compared to our husbands, who could invest more time in their careers. They could focus consistently, take fewer breaks, and maintain their health, allowing them to earn more. And, in a way, a significant part of their success could be attributed to us, their wives, who chose to work within limitations, contributing as a secondary source of income.

From my perspective only, that difference in earnings between husband and wife often stems from her choices—choices made to support the family as a whole (popularly referred as secondary (income)). While there are exceptions, they are few and far between in this reality.